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13 April 2001 @ 07:36 am
words can hurt  
Sometimes LJ can be a dangerous place. It's so easy to say the wrong words or read someone's words and get an entirely different meaning than was intended because the reader does not know all of the background behind the words. In addition, the written medium does not convey emotions well, the emoticons are sometimes used, but not always to best effect.

Each one of us brings many different things to LJ because we have each one had different experiences in our lives. These experiences color everything that we do and see, even if we do not intend them to do so.

Sooner or later people will let you down because people are human and to be human is to be imperfect. So let me apologize now for anything that I may say in the future or something that I may have said in the past that has hurt someone. In most cases, it was probably not my intention to hurt you. I am just not that way, but I am not perfect and I will probably let you down sooner or later.
Current Mood: contemplativecontemplative
rbudrbud on April 13th, 2001 05:44 am (UTC)

well I couldnt have said it better my self.
and that is somthing everybody should keep in mind.
words do hurt others
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 03:46 pm (UTC)
The do have the potential to hurt, but they also have the potential to do great good. That's my ultimate goal for LJ, that my words would do not harm and in fact, that they would be helpful and encouraging to others.
leidtexan on April 13th, 2001 06:41 am (UTC)
A little common sense....
would help.

It's easier for people to throw out rude comments when the consequences of doing so are so minor. I've realized, in this past month of watching/reading LJ, that this is true.

I look at it like this. Day to day life in general, can be a pain in the behind at times. I came here to release the pressures and vent whatever feelings I might have had build up throughout my day. My intention was for nobody on here to take anything I said to heart, because my comments 90 times outta a 100 had absolutely nothing to do with anybody on LJ. Unfortunately, with this being an interactive platform like it is, it seems easier for a person to read what I type and insert their name where it shouldn't be. If that makes any sense at all...hahaha

Having a friends list can be a blessing and a curse all rolled up into one.
I am happy with or without, because I come to LJ for me...not for who may or maynot be on some friends' list they decided to implement into my private journal of thoughts.....

And in saying that....remember, you can't let one bad apple, spoil the whole dang bunch!!!
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 07:08 am (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
True, true! Unfortunately, I am sometimes that bad apple for some people. Ah, well...

Did you get the second try on that card I sent?
leidtexan on April 13th, 2001 07:37 am (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
You a bad apple!!?...Ah! Gary, that's hard to imagine. Hmmmm!

For me, you're more like the golden one:-)

Anywho....Yes, I did and thanked you openly in LJ, then turned it into a friend's only post, so ya probably missed it.

It was very thoughful indeed and I wish the same for you and your family this Easter.

Note the icon..:-)Thank you my friend...God Bless!
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 09:25 am (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
I like that Icon! :-) And I'm glad you liked the card. Yeah, the note was only up for a bit, then I might miss it in the evening hours. Sometimes I read a bit in LJ after work, and sometimes I don't!
Patriotpatriot on April 13th, 2001 07:48 am (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
You're not a bad apple Gary, but rather an encouragement to many, and a good one to me.

I hope that no one has taken something that you have said recently the wrong way. You seem to be a little down in this series of entries and I was wondering if that was why.

You always know in your heart what you have meant and God always knows your heart. I know that we need to be careful with what we write but at the same time the reader not the writer is the one responsible for how they choose to interpret what they have read.

You were talking about the mood icons in your original entry. I find those fascinating. Sometimes they fit the entry that the person has made and sometimes they do not. I try, probably without success...LOL, to make them fit the entry that I have made. But, for those that do not they are probably being more honest about how they feel at the moment through that icon. I find the mood icons to be very interesting from one person to the next.

I'm still pretty new to LJ but must admit that I have enjoyed being a part of LJ more than I have anything on the net in a long time. All and all, I think that LJ is going to be a great relief valve for me. Sometimes I like to debate on the message boards and when I do I do so from a point of Christian morality more than anything else. By doing so I am expressing a part of who I am with the realization that due to the fourm that I am doing that in who I am is going to be attacked. That's ok though, like I said I realize that up front and besides I have pretty thick skin anyway...LOL. But after a while one does grow weary in spirit in those fourms which is one part of what makes LJ so refreshing.

Hope you have a great day Gary. Too bad that you have to work today rather than being off like so many others are. You are right about Friday the 13th, God made this day just like He did the 12th and I can't find nothing bad about that.
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 09:06 am (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
Well, I have had a series of comments between someone here on LJ over the value of a friend's list. I am afraid I may have read something that was not intended, commented on it and there are some bad feelings as a result. Sometimes I engage my typing fingers before contemplating enough.

Actually I was speaking of this :-)(smile) ;-)(smile and wink) kind of emoticons. There are suppose to add some sense of facial expression to the unemotional words. But sometimes, they do not add enough and sometimes there are not used when they should be.
Patriotpatriot on April 13th, 2001 01:12 pm (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
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<<Actually I was speaking of this :-)(smile) ;-)(smile and wink) kind of emoticons.>>

Oh ok, I should use those more myself. You are right they do ad facial expressions to the words, and that's pretty nice :)

I used to ;) at my girl friend, but when she became my wonderful wife I quite it. I really neeeeeeed to wink at her again, don't I?

Hope that you are having a blessed day Gary. And don't let a misunderstanding keep you down. Real friendships amoung solid people survive misundersandings very easily. I really think that the rest of'em need the witness of our ongoing testimony.

"Take care my friend," wow that feels good to say :)
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 03:34 pm (UTC)
Re: A little common sense....
Thanks Audis. Enjoy that vacation my friend!
man_vs_wild on April 13th, 2001 12:07 pm (UTC)
Hey Gary! You have only offended me when you bragged up having better weather than me! LOL.

You're a great friend Gary. Don't let others get ya down.
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 03:26 pm (UTC)
Thanks Lew. I guess we did have much better weather this winter, although it was prett bad for us. :-)
ex_stephi525 on April 13th, 2001 01:40 pm (UTC)
I agree!
I totally agree with you! I sometimes just want to vent and say what's on my mind but then some people take a spaz and think all sorts of things that aren't true. It's also easier on here to say mean things cuz we don't know half the people and probably never will so they are basically anonymous to us.
Gary, all I know is that when I have a bad day or a controversial entry, you are always there with encouraging words and it really helps me. I'm always happy to see your comments. I'm very grateful to you for all you've done.
Garygdj on April 13th, 2001 03:36 pm (UTC)
Re: I agree!
Thanks Stephi.
Benjibenji on April 13th, 2001 06:46 pm (UTC)
Re: I agree!
I dunno if you ever read my entry about wanting to go out and do stupid stuff. I got in a lot of trouble for that and I learned my lesson. LJ is good for venting but I think a lot of things need to be kept to yourself. That's why all my entries which say stuff about other people which could be seen as bad, are all private. I think that's the best way to keep them, then if I want to I could always tell the person how I feel later on.