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06 June 2002 @ 10:58 am
Confusion abounds...  
Frankly, I'm more than a little confused about a person or two who used to be on my list.

Several on my list have changed names for one reason or another and this is not about you. You announced your intentions. Usually it was for security and harassment reasons. In one case, it was to change a perceived image. I have no problem with those kinds of changes.

If you delete your journal and disappear without a word, I will delete your journal off my list. It's not personal, you are gone. Why should I continue to check a deleted journal? If you come back under another name and I am not invited to join you, then I must assume that I am undesirable to you, especially when I see others on your list who somehow knew to add you. When this happens and there appears to be no logical reason behind it, I am confused. I know that it may just be an oversight, but I am funny that way. I will not tread where I perceive that I am not wanted.
Current Mood: confusedconfused
Fezziwig Fandangobandicoot on June 6th, 2002 09:33 am (UTC)
It's happened to me a few times, too. I always end up knowing their new name, but I don't go there unless I remain interested in reading their journals. If it's about relationships, then I let it go. I guess the part that bothers me is not having the closure of an explanation.
Gary: coffeecupgdj on June 6th, 2002 11:42 am (UTC)
closure of an explanation.
That's probably what does it for me too. And really, I can't say that I am blameless in this area, especially in my younger years.
angelinarocksme on June 6th, 2002 10:57 am (UTC)
Speaking of...you can delete VSB if you want. *smile*
Gary: MeWithOldFlaggdj on June 6th, 2002 11:33 am (UTC)
I already did, since it seemed "that one" was not going anywhere! This post is not about you. I appreciate how you handed your change and understand the motivation behind it. :-)
newbeginning4me on June 8th, 2002 09:01 am (UTC)
Just wondering ...what is VSB?
Garygdj on June 8th, 2002 09:09 am (UTC)
The initials of an LJ username.
newbeginning4me on June 8th, 2002 09:11 am (UTC)
Oh ok, I wasn't sure what it meant. Doing ok Gary?
Gary: coffeecupgdj on June 8th, 2002 09:17 am (UTC)
I am doing well. LJ wise, I was a little bothered by a friend who deleted and came back on another name, but didn't tell me about it. Not a big thing, really, but when it's someone that I really like (and thought they liked me), it gives me pause, you know?

Other than that, my BP is down and so is my weight, so I am feeling good.

How are you Terri? It's been a while since I've seen an entry from you, but I do miss them sometimes, especially if you write in the night!
newbeginning4me on June 8th, 2002 09:32 am (UTC)
Oh Gary-
I hope you don't mean me. I had to change mine because of my ex causing me trouble. I had Audis to let everyone on my friends list to know. I hope you got the message as well.

I am really glad you are doing better with your health and weight. Weight well really cause your health to go down. Trust me I know. Right now I have lost about 130 pounds. I started out weighing 290 and now down to 158. Sometimes this week I am going to show pictures of before and after.

About posting, I don't really post that much because I am hardly ever at home. I seem to always be busy. Today was a lucky one for me, I am off this weekend and my boyfriend is working so I had time to play on the computer for a minute or two ;)

Gary: MeWithOldFlaggdj on June 8th, 2002 09:35 am (UTC)
No, it wasn't you. You let me know and I understand completely. With this person, it probably wasn't about me at all, but with no information, I tend to "feel" it was.
newbeginning4me on June 8th, 2002 09:36 am (UTC)
*hugs* I'm sure it wasn't you either. Without you on my list, I would feel lost. I cherish your friendship!
Gary: MeWithOldFlaggdj on June 8th, 2002 09:39 am (UTC)
Thanks Terri! I appreciate your friendship as well!

I'll look forward to seeing those before and after pictures! I'm not quite at that point yet myself. :-) It surely sounds like you have lost quite a bit of weight! Good Job!